The unborn…
I found out three weeks ago that a friend lost her baby. It was their first pregnancy. Then I found out last week that she hasn’t fully recovered. Who can? Losing a child is the worst nightmare any parent can ever endure… and for something like that to happen to the only woman I truly believe with all my heart would make an absolutely incredible mom… it’s just too painful to acknowledge.
What do you say to her? What CAN I say to help her alleviate her pain? She’s done nothing wrong. If anything, she’s the only person I know who went through life being ultra nice… played by the rules… and still listened to her heart and fought for every little thing that it wanted. She followed her passion for music and loves a man with full abandon. She miraculously love spending time with her family and GETS ALONG with ALL of them. Can you imagine? I mean, I have a small immediate family but there are a couple members I don’t get along with ALL the time.
She loves kids. She works with them on a daily basis and they love her. It’s not hard to see that. She not only deserved to have a baby of her own… she wanted to have one. Not all parents could say that they wanted to have a child ’til their kid came out… or at least a few months after finding out that they were pregnant (when the dust has settled).
How do you come to terms with losing a child? A child you haven’t known but loved and will love your whole lifetime? Will her future be filled with wonder what her child could have been or would have looked like?
An unborn child leaves a deeper impression than most people could ever do. I pray for her and wish that things will start looking up and she won’t blame herself for ANY THING. Her baby was probably just as pure as her and maybe God just wanted to keep her child a little bit longer… Maybe He decided that there was another soul who greatly needs to be loved by her. I hope she knows this and believes it… because I do.
May 7th, 2009 at 1:13 pm
I have gone through similar trauma… The grainy screen of ultra sound and that tiny speck of her all of 5 weeks haunts me till date…
Idream sometime she is on my lap, in my arms, jogging with me, running along, reading together..
I do not even know it was she but I dream of her as she only…
I have never shared this with any one…
my best wishes for your friend…
Ravi
May 8th, 2009 at 4:32 am
Hi Ravi… I don’t think anyone deserves to go through what you and my friend went through. It is difficult and very heart breaking.
Thank you for your kind words. I hope you start to heal as well…